Despite big leaps in the social normalisation and acceptance of gay sex and relationships, a lot of young gay men still struggle with how to experience their sexuality in a meaningful and integrated way.
Online hook-up apps often contribute to a streamlining of sexual identities, roles and preferences, by reducing potential sexual encounters to questions such as “top, vers, bottom?” and “what are you into?”
And our current social media culture is rife with selfies of torsos, pecs and abs, which result in a lot of young gay men feeling increasingly alienated from their bodies, as they ceaselessly work on improving them.  Unsurprisingly for many, sex is not an intimate encounter of exploration between two beings, but a pre-planned and choreographed interaction between two objects.

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