Lot’s of couples struggle when a partner discloses they are transgender and decide they want to transition. For many couples, we’ve heard this was a deal breaker. In our case, the decision was made as a couple and it was the BEST decision we’ve ever made in our relationship.
We’ve had many questions like, “Well does that mean your transitioning husband is going to run off looking for a man?” or “Is your wife not going to be attracted to you because she’s not a lesbian?”
Here’s a list of questions I posed to my heterosexual wife about me transitioning MtF and her candid responses. Nothing rehearsed. Nothing discussed before hand. In the raw:
1. Have you always seen feminine traits in Kelly or is this something that completely caught you off guard?
2. When you both realized you were dealing with knowing Kelly was Transgender, why did you say “yes” to her transitioning?
3. What were some of your fears about her transitioning?
4. With Kelly transitioning to a female body, this essentially makes you both a lesbian couple. How do you feel about this?
5. How has this transition affected your relationship? Talk about intimacy, feelings, family life, business, community.
6. What are some of the challenges you had to overcome?
7. What are some of the best parts of your spouse transitioning?
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