My Asian parents never understood how much I struggled with women, depression, self-confidence and even thoughts of suicide. So when I told my Tiger Parents the self-development path that I undertook in order to get better with women, social anxiety, self-esteem and to get rid of suicidal thoughts, they had a hard time understanding why I had so much trouble with AMWF interracial dating.
But as much as they might not understand why I retired from the Air Force to become my own Asian Boss, I still love them anyways and have learned to accept them for who they are even if they aren’t understanding of my new career as the Korean Dating Coach.
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Hey guys this Captain Daniel Hyun from ABCs
of Attraction.
So today I’m going to talk about actually
something very dear to my heart and probably
something that you personally experienced
too.
Yeah! You.
So, I’m on my way home.
I just came from New York and I’m going on
the train to New Jersey.
So, I’m originally from New Jersey and that’s where my parents live.
So, I’m actually going to my aunt’s house
right now to see my parents and everything.
So, one thing I realize about when I started
pickup and now that I’m a full-time dating
coach is that my parents never knew that I
did pick up.
So just like you I was a student.
When I was a student I never told my parents
that this pick up thing.
Now I retired from this really good-looking
job, this really cool job that my parents
would tell all their friends about.
Something they could be very proud of.
So that was me being a captain in the air
force.
That is a job that my mom and dad can tell
everyone at church, everyone around their
community of friends said well my son is a
captain in the air force.
Look at the job I’m doing now.
I told them I’m the Asian hitch or I’m a dating
coach.
They actually saw my reality tv show dating
no filter and they’re like what do you do?
You’re a dating coach?
And on internet they actually googled me,
and they saw that I had women next to me and
right off the bat they found out what I did.
They saw that that I do this dating coach
thing so they judge like you teach guys how
to pick up women and yeah I know guys, you
probably had your parents especially Asian
parents tell you “hey become a doctor, become
a lawyer, do all this” and if you did anything
to look bad for the Asian culture, but most
part of the family, they said stuff to you.
So right me right now though you do have a
job that your parents love.
But you keep certain secrets and I guarantee
you probably most likely you’re not telling
them that you vested thousands of dollars,
hours of your time going to pick up right?
Watching YouTube videos, investing in the
bootcamp and you’re like what am I doing?
How do I tell them?
And that’s the thing guys.
The biggest thing is you have to tell, you
just have to tell you parents and the most
important thing is maybe you’re like “No I
don’t want to tell my parents” right.
So, I actually told my parents exactly, because
I actually became close.
Maybe as a student you don’t have to.
So, let me actually backtrack on that.
Because I’m a coach you got to tell your parents
that you’re living, this is your lifestyle
and you also for me I’m on YouTube, I’m a
public figure.
But when you tell your parents you don’t have
to tell parents that you invest in a bootcamp.
But the biggest thing is they do find out,
you paid this money to a bootcamp what are
you doing.
Then you got to tell them honestly there’s
one thing I would say is like you have to
tell them why you’re doing it.
Because you want to find your girl.
You want to find, tell them you want grandchildren,
you want a you know a wife you want to see
me have what.
That’s one of the best means, think about
your parents.
They love you no matter what.
But they want to love you in a very specific
way.
So, they’re not going to understand that you
are doing this to get away or to have children,
to have a family.
They’re not going to get it.
All that money, all the cars, BMW’s, you
get rich from a [03:16 inaudible] girls just
come to you.
You and I both know that’s not true.
The biggest thing is that, tell them that
this is a way for you to get away and have
grandchildren that they could that you can
bring home to on a Sunday.
That’s next thing okay.
Another thing that I realized what my parents
are telling them that I did pick up as a coach
was I accept the fact that pickup has a very
bad name.
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