Recently I re-discovered this book while browsing through a local op-shop, with enthusiasm I took it to the counter to take home & re-read the beautiful life lessons offered by John Gray. My favourite two chapters without a doubt ‘Women are Like Waves’ & ‘Men Go to Their Caves & Women Talk!’
Women Are Emotional Waves, don’t we know it!
John Gray aptly describes women as waves, he says, “When she feels loved her self esteem rises and falls in a wave motion. When she is feeling good, she will reach a peak, but then suddenly her mood may change and her wave crashes down, this crash is temporary. After she reaches the bottom suddenly her mood will shift and she will feel good about herself.”
My ‘ah ha!’ moment arrived while reading this chapter when John states that a women at the bottom of her wave likes to discuss & share her problems, then will begin to rise up to the top of the wave & feel good again. He writes that men misunderstand this positive shift to mean that whatever was bothering her is now completely healed or resolved. As men generally discuss problems to find a resolutions.
Then when I went on to read ‘Men Go To Their Caves & Women Talk’ a clearer picture began to emerge for me in the huge difference in communicating & problem solving between men & women.
Men Go To Their Caves & Women Talk
“You seem to have gone into a cave, want to about it?”
Doesn’t everyone want to talk all the time? Especially when they have a problem? Reality is a funny thing. I didn’t realise how much I actually talk until I read this chapter, I thought everyone was the same as me…wow shock!? I realise that I have a large word count requirement. When I had a wisdom tooth removed a sympathetic friend came to visit our normal chit chatter was reduced to a few words here and there, I had so much to say but could not talk!
So it was to my horror when I first read this book to find out that some people especially men like to withdraw to cope with stress & focus on the problem until it is resolved often at the expense or ahead of other responsibilities.
I totally love this book it profoundly challenges my thinking. The tips & lessons to be learned are so helpful when in the workplace, at home, with friends or in situations of conflict.
John Gray
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
Can be purchased from http://www.amazon.com
AUS r.r.p. $19.95
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