Turns out, at least in my community, no amount of dependability, cooperation, sincerity, or
spiritual maturity can make up for being gay. You go from golden child to hellbound sinner like
that, and suddenly you’re on the receiving end of all the consequences of sin. We’re taught the
wages of sin is death, and it’s not that far off. Coming out in a place where queerness is sin can
mean the end of community and relationships and all of your emotional support and
sometimes even your place to live. It can mean getting kicked out, ignored, or simply forgotten.